“Dont hurt her feelings you dick!”… Short, logical, emotionless, to the point. I got a long message saying how “you don’t know me!” got called all kinds of names, shamed for “making her feel like crap,” etc. I did not expect that level of rage. We dudes get rejected all the time, but when a woman gets rejected, be prepared for fury. They cannot handle it – especially when they have a chip on their shoulder in the form of a child out of wedlock.

The signs are usually there, you just choose not to see them. If she seems resistant to answer questions about her ex, it’s actually a really good sign! It means she’s trying to build something with you, and only you.

They usually tell us not to hate on our mothers and all but it’s not right that I’m 19 and I have to be the emotional rock in the household for the woman who raised me. Even worse is the single mothers who see their children as a burden. They hate themselves and thus their children who are, essentially, them. Youre right that women need BB but sometimes BB comes in different forms. There are different kinds of societal arrangements. In some societies children Identify with their mothers’ tribe in part because paternity may not be known or men dont stick around.

It can even signal that she’s still into them, so you may want to steer clear. However with it being a newborn you can actually step into that role without a lot of the drama of having the baby’s father still hanging around. I’m asking this because I’m considering dating one, and all I ever hear are reasons why you shouldn’t date them. SadSister, I don’t envy your position. Your brother is in a bad place right now and it’s led him to do some franklyhorrible things.

Sometimes, dating a single mom might not be preferred by a few men due to certain reasons or inability to adjust with their routines. All it takes is a cash slip for the kiddies meal you got Timmy that day three months ago or that ice cream vendor who remembers you buying Timmy an ice cream cone. For men in their 20s, single moms can be a trap. Once you’re in your mid-30s to 50s, they become a great source of willing part time plates.

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Eventually she sunk into debt by getting drunk and buying lottery tickets every other day then asking the bank for money for more lottery tickets ,then proceeded to manipulate everyone for money. She was and still is one of the most astonishing manipulators I have ever had the displeasure of meeting. At one point she even threathened to kill herself if my brother didn’t give her money. I got out of there as soon as I could, and I’m now living with my father. Now realize that you are not looking for love or some unicorn.

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Make sure your divorce is signed, sealed, and delivered. No “testing the dating market” if you are still married or just separated from your wife. It isn’t fair to the single mom who needs someone free and clear.

And that’s a good sign because it means she is a thoughtful, serious person. When dating women with kids, she will give you what she can, and it will be very special to her and to you. And, unless her child is at a sleepover at the dad’s or friends’, there will be no late nights. No staying out ’till the wee hours of the morning just because you have had such a great time, and you don’t want this to end. Before, with your childfree girlfriends, your time was your own. You could propose a spontaneous evening out without much notice and be drinking and dancing an hour later.

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The sex comes with a massive attachment and the man will always be second. Furthermore, what advantage is there to raising another man’s bastard spawn? The hope that the child will grow up to be responsible and care for you in the twilight years of your life? You can have better odds and less debt in vegas, my friends. There’s been so many girlfriends and wives who’ve cheated on troops.

You are looking out at what’s best for you. You do what’s best for you while accepting any criticism or problem you have of your partner as a sign or problem that needs to be handled before it gets bigger. You don’t owe her or her child anything, but if she follows your lead and makes you happy, besides sex, then perhaps hold your frame and continue on. However, I would advise against moving in together, getting CharmDate married, or having more kids and in this case to understand the laws and obligations of your state regarding those things. By your theory this girl would have been knocked up and then proceeded to drain her son’s father dry while she pursues someone else. Problem is that she has her son full time, but has never pursued her son’s father in court for child support – opting instead to work and provide for herself .

If you’re looking for a long-term relationship but you and her appear to be on different pages with your financial goals, this may be a potential concern. If she never even offers to split a tab or cover her cup of coffee on your lunch date, it could be something to look out for. Maybe she’s just old-fashioned, but money issues are a leading cause of divorce for a reason and this may be something you want to look into.